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FAL-WIN 2014

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1 2 Fa l l | W i n t e r B R I DE { ASK z EXPERTS } Q You really need to not just thank the bride, but also express to her what you love about her, why you love her, how you see your life together. Te honeymoon is something that's got- ten put on the plate of the groom — maybe not choosing the destina- tion, but planning it. Andrew Klawier grooms DAPPER Klawier is co-founder of Groom HQ, groomhq.com. Having attended a dozen bachelor parties, been a groomsman seven times and been a best man twice, Klawier has seen some of the same wedding problems over and over again — including getting yelled at by the bride about why the groom couldn't get his act together. Groom HQ ofers help with tuxedos, groomsman gifts, party- planning technology and general advice for the pain many guys experience when planning a wedding. How involved should grooms be? "Grooms have this misconception that because their bride dreamed of her wedding and planned it on Pinter- est that she's an expert in executing that plan. The way a groom should be involved is asking her of the bat exactly what she wants his responsi- bilities to be, how exactly he can help her. And if she doesn't want any help, he's there to morally support her as she's going through the process. A lot of times the groom's mom and bride's mom and sisters all want to get involved with planning, and the bride wants to please everybody, but she doesn't want to tell people no. It's the groom's responsibility to play the middleman." What tasks are the groom's responsibility? "The rehearsal dinner has fallen un- der the groom's family or his parents. Also, the music at the reception is something the groom often handles. And the honeymoon is something that's gotten put on the plate of the groom — maybe not choosing the destination, but planning it. There are a lot of dual tasks that he doesn't know he'll be responsible for. Sending out the invitations. Other than that, it's what the bride wants help with. Little inputs — although she may not care for his input. The fowers, going to the bridal shows — that's really where the support comes in." Why should you buy, rather than rent, a tuxedo? "For anyone, probably, from 20 to 25, this is a tough pill to swallow. Over the course of about a decade, as you grow up and your friends are more fnancially stable, these black-tie events are more likely to happen. And every time you have to go rent a tux just to look nice, you're going to spend between $150 and $200. And then you're going to have to go through the same painful process of going in and getting ftted. These people who are ftting you, they're not formally trained on what there doing; they just had the crash course. So odds are it's going to take two or three fttings just to ft right anyway. Then you have the time you put in just to rent one tuxedo. Now you're looking at spending over $600 just to experience that same painful process in the next few years. Versus: doing some research up-front, fnding a local quality tailor whose reputation relies on his ability to educate and ft somebody properly for a tuxedo. Not only that, but they usually receive the wholesale prices for the tuxedo. Now, to get a quality tux that you can wear for the next 10 years that is ft to you professionally is going to cost you two rental tuxedos." What's your idea of a perfect bachelor party? "The perfect bachelor party really shouldn't revolve around how drunk you get or how crazy you go. The bachelor party is more of an event where you and all of the friends from an incredible and infuential chapter of your life fnally get to come together and catch up. It's about reliving the memories of the past as well as creating new memories for the future. I think that's the same for the bachelorette party." How do you suggest picking out an engagement ring? "Unless she's thrown obvious hints or you all have had a conversation about it, you're kind of in no-man's- land when you walk into that jewelry store. What's more important than the actual engagement ring itself is the surprise of the engagement — that's a story you tell for the rest of your life because it never works out the way you planned. Then you can take her to the jeweler and get the dream ring that she's always wanted. The engagement ring process should be a lengthy process, just like with the tailor. You need to fnd a reliable, trustworthy local dealer who can tell you exactly the stone that you're get- ting, where it came from, that it's certi- fed. Otherwise, someday you're going to get it appraised and you'll realize, 'Wow, I made a really big mistake.'" Any tips for the groom's speech? "You need to thank both the bride's parents and your parents for what- ever role they played in the wedding process. And you really need to not just thank the bride, but also express to her what you love about her, why you love her, how you see your life together. Then it's always a good go- to to tell the story of how you all met. Most of the time a lot of people in the room don't know that story, so this is your opportunity to not let the truth get in the way of a good story. You can really embellish it and win over the people in that room — that you are a person who truly does love this girl and they see you spending the rest of your life with her." 1-45 edit.indd 12 6/16/14 3:47 PM

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